Christmas is a holiday that many of us look forward to every year. Even if they make us a little melancholy, they primarily evoke feelings of humanity in us, of love, joy and optimism for the new year to come. However they are indeed, a demanding celebration…
They ask for more emotion, more time for our own people and rest, more luxury, more materials, more sweets, more alcohol, more food. Everything a little "more"!
Christmas and what causes their melancholy
Just this extravagance that Christmas has causes a melancholic mood and an anxiety to get into the mood of the days. The very beauty of the holiday sparkle and atmosphere often evokes some of our melancholy thoughts.
Christmas melancholy is directly linked to nostalgia. You remember your childhood, you think of parents growing up, children who entered puberty, the grandmother who may be alone in another area outside the city, the people who need both material and companionship.
And you know this nostalgia and emotion is what separates the perception of Christmas from adults and the corresponding one from children. The latter have combined festive days with play, friends, joy, decorated house, Christmas tree, delicacies, gifts and laughter.
The adult may not always feel this way, because the memories confuse him, thoughts of success- failure and the so-called new year's resolutions, which cause anxiety to some.
A major inhibitor to holiday joy is, according to experts, the self-critical mood, which often catches us as a result of which we are filled with guilt for no reason.
How to avoid the melancholy of the holidays
They say that to enjoy Christmas and avoid dark thoughts, you have to look around the tree and not under it.
That is, to gather your loved ones close to this festive atmosphere, which is often an excellent opportunity- occasion, rather than devoting your time and energy to consumerism by filling the tree with ornaments and lavish gifts.
According to the psychotherapist, Amy Morin, "When we decorate our house for the holidays, we usually bring to mind a happy moment with family or friends from the past. Past moments of happiness give rise to very pleasant feelings in the present".
Christmas and emotional changes: Last but not least
At Christmas we become, even for a while, better people. The goal of improving our character should be daily, regardless of age. However, during the holidays we sympathize more with those who are in need of love and food and unfortunately lack them.
Author of "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do", Amy Morin, which we mentioned above emphasizes: "Altruism becomes more intense in December. People donate more and therefore feel happier. They feel so good in fact, with the feeling of offering that every year they want to start preparations earlier and earlier".
Even the most difficult neighbors seem to be becoming more sociable, cheerful and friendly. They offer Christmas treats, they generously give wishes and help people, animals or local families in need.
